With MLC Women - Do they come back????

[DadNotQuitting]

I've read so many threads here my eyes (and heart) hurt. There are disaster stories, and there are success stories. However..., it seems as though the VAST majority of success stories are those where the MLC husband comes back, and too few where it is a MLC wife that re-dedicates herself to the marriage. Correct me if I'm wrong, but AmyC seems to be the only one that I've come across that came out of the pain with the intent to "fix" the problems within her marriage. Without a doubt, she is an inspiration, and through her own pain, is some to be applauded for coming onto this forum to help so many of us. And Amy, I do listen, I really do..........

So my question.... In all reality, how many of us left-behind husbands can expect our MLC wifes to "come out of the fog" and decide to re-engage the marriage? I won't ask what we can do to facilitate it, because I'm 23 threads into trying to figure that out, without any luck.

I just want to know how many of us are wasting our time, energy, emotion, love and pain on wanting to see a turnaround when none exists.