Still trying - Not very well

[Heimlich]

Limbo,

Cooling my jets on the posting so much. Got a little depressed when I logged back in on Sunday evening after not really checking in since Wed and saw an entire new batch of folks in newcomers. As OT said at one point, it wears on you after a while.

I know you've been holding things together for a long time, but you've also got a string of expecting the worst. I picked up "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff for Men" for a quarter at a used book sale and I pick it up and read a page or two before going to sleep. Opened it up for the first time in a while last night and it opened to: Think "maybe so, maybe no"

From the book: One of the reasons it's so easy to get stressed an duptight has to do with the fact that we are often so certain in our positions and assumptions. Rather than maintaining a degree of openness to the uknown -- openness to the possibility that things may work out just fine -- we instead convince ourselves that we not only know what's going to happen, but also that, whateever "it" is, it's going to be horrible.

And, later:
Yet, what's the point of assuming the worst, getting stressed, overwhelmed and pessimistic, when the real truth is that the end result is unknown.

This doesn't mena you need to by pollyanna or that you're wrong, just that it's something that seems to run through your thread -- expecting the worst outcome. He's there. He's trying. Look, you may be getting to the point where you really can't do this anylonger. You may realize that you don't want to be with your H. If so, that's OK. Just make sure that's what you really feel/think and don't make it happen by assuming the worst is going to happen -- maybe so, maybe not.

Hang in there, Limbo.

BD