I am not asking you how much time you put into "thinking" about his needs, I was asking how much time do you spend actually MEETING his needs. This could be kissing, cuddling, flirting, being sexy, flashing him, showing him desire.
You mentioned before that you were rejecting sex with him, that you spent a long time working on the sex and it was just starting to get better, and he essentially moved out of the bedroom. You were thinking that SEX was his need, and that really is NOT his need. This is where LD women tend to do the wrong thing, they tend to focus on GIVING their man sex, or upping the frequency. This is NOT going to help. To meet the need for complete sexual fulfilment requires that the WOMAN physically want US. Giving us sex because it is OUR need is going to fail, WANTING us for sex is how you meet the need. My guess is that your husband NEVER felt DESIRE from you, and without DESIRE, you really can not have love. It is ALL about DESIRE, it is NOT about sex.
