Maybe not too complicated to understand

[Michael Mc C]

Thanks LWB! Was it the name change you were referring to in the prior post?

So, she was in a happy mood when I got home. Which is fine except that when things first started out in September, she was always really angry. Now it seems she is fine with her decision and is more than happy to treat me with respect and kindness.

I hate it. But, for the kids, it can't be beat.

I'm in my office and she came downstairs to let me know she talked to him and he is going to pay for the return trip. Cheap bastard, less tolls on the way back up!!

Another wrinkle - the Friday that she's supposed to leave is the same night of D11's holiday concert. She knows this. I'm sure she's not thinking she can just skip it, but she is just not taking this (real life) into consideration. She conveniently forgets these details. I'm tempted not to tell her.

I'm also tempted to put off getting our Christmas tree until she is gone. Hey, the kids and I need to GAL while you're out doing the same HONEY.

Ahh, love is grand.

Now this is something I haven't posted but have been meaning to. I asked W not to talk to OM or text him inside the house. I explained that this was not spite but instead a request for respect. She agreed without discussion.

On Sunday night I went to a friends house for some drinks until around midnight. When I came home, she was in bed (the couch in the living room) and closed her cell phone. I asked if it was him. She said "Yes, we spoke for a few hours." I reminded her of our agreement and she said, with venom in her voice "Oh yeah, guess I broke one of the rules." My only response was that it was an agreement that we had made and that I expected she would live up to it.

So...D13 approaches me Monday night and tells me "Mommy was on the phone with her friend and she's going somewhere on Friday."

I could have died. D13 knows about HIM ever since her birthday in October. She is so worried about this. I have spoken to her a few times to at least let her know we're not fighting, we're trying to make it so everyone is happy - even if that means mommy leaves our home (she brought that up, I couldn't lie to her).

Anyway, I sent D13 back to bed with some reassurances. I approached my wife (who was playing her game) and told her what had just happened. Wife had the insensitive nerve (?) to say "Well if she's going to eavesdrop, she's going to hear things she shouldn't".



I told her that if she hadn't started an affair, we wouldn't be hiding things from the kids. I then got up and walked away.

This same subject came up at 4:00 this morning. She was at the computer (yep, plays late sometimes) talking to him on the phone. I gave her a friendly reminder and she said "We're just talking about the game." I told her "I don't care, you are talking to HIM."

She got upset because it didn't make sense. She wasn't having any kind of a relationship conversation with him. How could I possibly be hurt by it? I told her the request was for respect, not for my feelings but for respect within the family home. D13's overhearing of the conversation could have been avoided.

Bring forth the eavesdropping spew... but this time I told her with closed, clenched teeth "This is why I asked for discretion."

"Why, the kids are going to find out anyway"

Is she kidding me?!!! This has got to be some kind of a joke. This woman would do ANYTHING for her children, they come first. She has told me this repeatedly over the past couple of months.