oldtimer -- Well, maybe next time, skip flipping her over before you de-pants her. Simply lift her butt up and de-pants her. That might be more than I can do. We aren’t lightweights.
I have done, crotch to the side but I would rather have all of the skin-to-skin I can press together.
-- Have you tried a more upright posture, like kneeling, when you are on top, rather than the lying on top and holding your torso up with your arms thing? I have done standing on the floor with her on the bed. I have done something like you describe but it is a little bit of a problem concerning alignment. I as a bit tall and when I put pillows under her butt, she didn’t like it
My belief is BB is OK with some degree of having sex but it has to be very conventional, PIV. Most of the time I feel we trade, sex for me and a back rub for her while she is on top. I don’t consider myself to be a stud but I do a good back-hair-what I can reach, rub.
-- What happened to BB's O? I used to work a lot and didn’t take enough time fooling around with BB. Then because I worked too much and hard, I injured my back.
Doing the hokey-pokey was difficult for several months before surgery and about 6 months after surgery. BB said she was so frustrated, her sexuality turned in on her. She said she never wanted to depend on anyone sexually anymore and she didn’t think doing it herself was right or something like that.
During a verbal disagreement, BB said she didn’t want any more “O” because that part of her died and she never wanted to be horney again. When she was horney and I had serious back problems, it drove her to be frustrated, then resentful. She doesn’t want to go there again.
Her last “O” I remember was sometime between Jan 1981 and April 1981.
I asked, offered to do almost anything to help her get back in her grove. She won’t go there.
Several medical procedures later, I doubt she has the ability to “O” w/o some serious retraining.
I would be willing to try but I don't see any desire on her part.
