I am glad that you spoke to OW H.. your not alone. He is going through the same crap you are.
I don't understand the mirror thing, that is bazaar. But knowone said they did any normal anyway. Maybe it is his guilty conscience. I don't know. I don't know what I would do now. If the Ow H's goes and files, yes there is a chance that will move things along with your H.. as bad as that might be, it will certainly test the situation and you will know who is going to stay with. You don't want him with you out of convience ya know. I know how hurt and upset you must be right now, I feel for you and im so sorry he is doing this to you. You are a sweet person and don't deserve any of it. You have your beautiful daughters to think about and they will always be with you.
He doesn't deserve to be happy after all the pain he's caused.
(((hugs))- whatever you decide we will support you.
Tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Thanks for the hugs jar. You amaze me how strong you are. Need to go check on your day......
TAL
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You don't want him with you out of convience ya know
Its almost good this has been dragging out, because months ago, if H came back to me, I would have taken him, even out of convenience. Now I wouldn't. Nope.
I returned OW's H phone call (missed one yesterday). Thought he had a cold. Nope, he was crying. He was a little mortified, but I just talked and let him get himself together, didn't mention the crying. He's one of us, guys, hurt and lonely, sad and scared. Doesn't want any of this, doesn't want out, but can't do this anymore. I hope I helped him feel a bit better. I think I can speak the truth when I tell him I know exactly how he feels.
Oh god, you're so strong! There's must be a reason why we have to learn this lesson. I am sorry to get emotional, but oh boy, everybody here is so unbreakable in the end...
I had to leave this quote here:
It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer. Albert Einstein
The fact that you were able to be strong for OW's H is a testament to your strength as well. In my reply to you on my thread I mentioned my upbeat attitude. I know what it was that did it. One of my wife's on-line friends sent me an email telling me that she went through this as well. I have spoken to her in the past and she has always been able to offer sound advice. The revelation that she was part of such a sitch made all the advice she had ever given so much more meaningful.
We need to share our strength and experience with each other, whenever we can.
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Me: 39/W: 37 D13-D11-S8 M/T 14/20
EA confirmed: 9/13/07 D-Bomb: 9/19/07 OM Gone since 12/18/07 W wants to fix marriage: 3/16/07
Hi lwb. Just catching up with you. I'm so sorry things are progressing this way for you. You have been so strong, so understanding, so consistent. You don't deserve the accusations and disrespect.
I'm glad you and OW's H are able to communicate. The poor guy. I hate what these people are doing to their spouses and families. So selfish.
Hugs to you and your girls, dear lady.
Me29 H33 D9 months S2 S9(previous R) Sep 8-19-07 I file 11-5-07 H home (Retro) 2-15-08 "Today is the tomorrow of yesterday." -- S9
I know I would be sooo much worse off without you guys. Really, I am grateful. Thanks for the kudos on trying to help OW's H, I felt so bad for him today.
Don't know if it is a good idea or not but do you think you might refer the OWH to this site? I may be giving up YOUR safe place so I am not sure if it would be good or not. Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
