Thank you everyone for ALL of your great advice I really appreciate it more than you will ever know. It's great to have people who understand what you are going through. Today is my sons 4th birthday and for me it has been really hard. I tried to make his birthday as nice as possible. I took my S out to lunch after nursery school and then we came home because my H said that he would stop by. H came by about 3:00 and we had cake and opened presents, H only stayed for an hour. I really thought that he would at least want to go out to dinner with us but no such luck. H went back to work after the cake I really wish that he would have at least spent some time with S. I just dont understand why he didn't even want to spend some time with our son on his 4th birthday. It just kills me that he used to be such a great dad and now nothing. We do have a party planned for Saturday but H has his friends and family coming so he'll spend the whole party with them. Why do the mlc people act like this I mean it's his son why cant he just try to be a good dad for one day? I know my s doesn't know what's going on but it just kills me that H has changed this much. It's so hard to see a man who used to be such a great dad and now he's just so not. Doesn't he realize what he's doing? I feel so drained and tired because our s has so much energy and I'm trying to play mommy and daddy. I play baseball with s and I've never played baseball in my whole life so I dont even know what I'm doing but I try for our s. My H used to play baseball with s but since mlc he doesn't do anything with him and I know that my s misses that and I just dont know what to do. A lot of people on this board told me not to tell H what a bad dad he is being and I know they are right but it's really killing me and I just dont know what to do. Sorry to ramble on I guess I just had to let it out because today has been so hard for me. Thanks for listening and I would love any advice or thoughts that anyone might have.
