Mark F, you are brilliant....

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they make us the housekeeper of this unpleasant world they want to break free of.


Yes!

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The thing that bugs me most is my wife does nice things with me to ease HER GUILT. She will clean the house, or make dinner, etc, not to be nice to me, but to help her feel better about her having her affair and feel like she's paying her dues or some sick thing like that.


Do you live here with me??? Wow.

Thanks for great insight, and I mean that.