Let me TRY to make a few things a bit clearer, if that's possible. I am so f'n stressed out this last week that I can't even stand being around myself. Because of my wife stealing our money earlier this year, it has been a major uphill battle catching up. Looooooooong story short, we stand to lose about a half million dollars on an investment unless I get things taken care of quickly and effectively. I've had to hire another attorney (I now have four attorneys in my life) to assist me on this, and I think I've about got it wrapped up. Problem is, my wife has actually helped the "other side" by giving them some information that impedes what I'm working on. Half of this damn money is hers, and she's working against me!!! So yes, I'm under more stress that maybe I have ever endured.
I called W this morning to try to get her to discuss the matter with me. I need about two minutes of her time. And yes, I did contact her attorney yesterday first, and he has been absolutely no help. So, I called her this morning. I got two words in and she hung up. I called back from a different number an hour later - she said F U, and if I call again she'll call the police. For what? I have every right in the world to call her, but if she's going to act this way, then God help her. What a mess, and she is doing nothing to help and everything to hurt.
Got a call from a friend today that used to be W's friend. They'll probably never speak again...... She tells me that W's car was stolen last night. W moved out of our big home yesterday, and from what I can gather, her car was stolen while parked in front of her home and down the street a bit.
So the kids sometimes-babysitter dropped them off to me at the grocery store drop off point. I received a call from W's attorney's secretary an hour before, informing me to be there as opposed to picking them up at school. Seems they were up 'til midnight last night, and because she didn't have a car this morning, they didn't get to school Ummm, I live all of a mile from her. She is so ......whatever..... that she cannot even find a way to get them to school. So unexpectedly, D, the babysitter that I used to confide in (haven't talked to her in over a month, by choice) pulls up next to me, gets out of her car, and begins to rip into me with every dirty word you can imagine. W told her that the car is uninsured (completely not true), and that I'm an a-hole for not giving wife $$$ to feed my kids. The kids were in her car, but only two feet away and they heard all of this. What a b****!
I called W an hour later because I wanted to tell her that under no circumstance would I drop off my kids with this woman this evening when they are to go back. Got two words in, and she hangs up. Very mature. I sent her a text message saying that she would have to make other arrangements since I won't drop them off with D. I got a voicemail from her attorney's office a bit later saying that W would be there personally because I said I wasn't returning the children. Whatever..... She cannot even call me to communicate any of this and has to run it all through the attorney. I cannot wait to get all of this in front of the co-parent counselor next week and a child custody evaluator.
BTW, with regards to not giving her money for the kids. I have given her several "gift cards" from the grocery store she shops at, including about ten days ago. Not once have I received any gratitude. In fact, it seems that latest one I gave her didn't have enough cash loaded on it so she screached to the kids "that's all! I'd rather have nothing". Be careful what you ask for.
Hell of a day.
Me: 39 WAW: 40 S10, D7, S6 Bomb #1 - 12-24-06: Move out (ILYBNILWY - admitted '05 PA) Move back: 3-2-07 (W: I still want to be married to you) Bomb # 2 - 4-11-07: (W: Can't do this - never loved you) Move out again: 4-29-07 Dark: 6-8-07
Well DNQ: This just sucks. Her behaviour goes above and beyond ANYTHING that a responsible mom would do. But contacting her is a waste of time - obviously.
The best advice I can give you it to journal. Write down every detail you can. You WILL need this information when you go to the counsellor and when you go back to court.
But don't call her lawyer. He will not help you. It is his job to help your wife.
Do the best you can do to protect and care for your children. If you are ever in a similar situation again, it would be best to stop the sitter in her tracks and tell her to talk to you calmly and away from your kids. Easier said than done, I know.
This situation is beyond hostile - it is extremely volatile. Again, I repeat - DO NOT CALL YOUR WIFE. Call your attorney. That is what you pay him for. Ask him how to handle things.
Just got a call from the sitter that chewed my ass today. She was basically crying, telling me that she cannot believe she said those things, and apologized profusely. OK, my first reaction was to rip into her a bit, but what would that accomplish? She has W's ear, and I wanted information...... Besides, I appreciate it when people that make mistakes show remorse and apologize. So I told her twenty times to not give it another thought, that everyone will be fine, and I completely forgive her. She is 60+ and has been in poor health lately and said she's taking some heavy medication that while normally fine, sometimes makes her cranky.
She said W is essentially a mess, but yes, pissed at me. Said she's not dating anyone and that she is more comfortable in her new home, but stressed out to the max. Her problem.....
Sitter told me a couple things W is mad about, and while I didn't "defend" myself, I simply stated that her perception of things isn't entirely accurate.
Told me that she thought W was coming around a bit, and ready to be more amenable to me, but when she was investigated by Child Protective Services last month, it sent her into a spin. Including at me. I told sitter that I had nothing to do with it, and she agreed, and she and W knew it was S10s teacher. They did thing that some of the things I said to teacher prompted it, but I told her the truth, that the only thing I talked to her about was S10 and his performance at school.
Just got a call from the sitter that chewed my ass today. She was basically crying, telling me that she cannot believe she said those things, and apologized profusely. OK, my first reaction was to rip into her a bit, but what would that accomplish? She has W's ear, and I wanted information...... Besides, I appreciate it when people that make mistakes show remorse and apologize. So I told her twenty times to not give it another thought, that everyone will be fine, and I completely forgive her. She is 60+ and has been in poor health lately and said she's taking some heavy medication that while normally fine, sometimes makes her cranky.
She said W is essentially a mess, but yes, pissed at me. Said she's not dating anyone and that she is more comfortable in her new home, but stressed out to the max. Her problem.....
Sitter told me a couple things W is mad about, and while I didn't "defend" myself, I simply stated that her perception of things isn't entirely accurate.
Told me that she thought W was coming around a bit, and ready to be more amenable to me, but when she was investigated by Child Protective Services last month, it sent her into a spin. Including at me. I told sitter that I had nothing to do with it, and she agreed, and she and W knew it was S10s teacher. They did thing that some of the things I said to teacher prompted it, but I told her the truth, that the only thing I talked to her about was S10 and his performance at school.
And BTW, I do detail, detail, journal, journal like no other...... I tell everyone I talk to that's involved in this type of BS to do the same.
I got a call from one of S6's teachers at school. Seems that my wife sent him to school this morning with no shoes. What the hell? Seems he had two pairs of shoes in her car, which as I said, was stolen a couple nights ago. He was with me last night for a few hours, and didn't have shoes on then, either. My first impulse was to go out and buy him some, but why? He must have ten other pairs at his mom's house, and he was only going to be with me for a short time, and we just hung out at the house anyway.
So the teacher called and told me this, but did say W had told her earlier in the morning that she was going to go home, get some shoes, and bring them back. Teacher called me because I live across the street from the school and she wanted to know if I had any shoes for him. I told her I did not (I have bought two pairs for him in the last two months, and they both ended up at mom's house somehow). I said I would go buy some, but I was half way across town and it would take a couple hours. She said that she would run down to a shoestore about 1/2 mile from school and take care of it herself. I thanked her and told her I'd come see her this afternoon to reimburse her. She is such a nice woman. Too bad my son's own mom couldn't be so nice.
I went and picked up my two babies from school today and they are with me now. Saw S10 over there and gave him a big I Love You and hugs. He rocks - such a good kid. I had received a call from Donna the Babysitter around noon (the one that apologized to me last night) and she wanted to know if I'd be around at 3:00 because she was going to bring my dog over (finally!!). So now I have my dog back (if I could just get my wife back, this would be a great country song). Found out that she also apologized to my kids last night, so that's good.
Donna called me a bit later to say that she was going to bring by some dog food, but I just thanked her and said not to bother, I'd just go out and buy some. Without prompting, she begins to tell me how bad off W is right now. She told me that W spent a long time to day on her bathroom floor crying hysterically, that she's just so distraught at her situation, mostly finances. I told D that I can sympathize, but she made it clear that her problems are no longer my problems. D said she understands, but that W needs some financial help. I told her that if she needed help so bad, she could pick up the phone and call me to discuss it. I'm not going to just start shoveling money her way because I hear that she's in distress.
Here's to hopin she doesn't raise back up like a cobra.
Leave the snake alone DNQ or she will.
True story,
A guy I know has a pet rattlesnake and he's telling me about another guy with one also. Seems this other guy comes home drunk one night and starts screwing with the snake, guess what, he gets bit. He ends up staying in the hospital for a week and now has a bill for 100K.
Again DNQ back away from what rattles.
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