Yes, I'm curious too how it worked out. I do like the gentler phrasing. I think if it's not said right, it becomes one of those phrases that ring in your ears for years and you can't forgive them for because it is so hurtful. It it is said like an ultimatum, that has a real underlying of being insulting, like "oh, and if I won't give it to you, you're ready to go find it somewhere else? Nice, I've been reduced to a cavity for your pleasure. All the other aspects to our relationship mean nothing." SOO, careful not to say something that will just HURT. BUT, if you ARE ready to move on, you need to say so, not because that is ALL that matters, but because it is VERY important to your sense of self and if you don't have it, you really would be willing to lose ALL THE OTHER THINGS YOU LOVE about the relationship with her in hopes of finding that missing ingredient that you need to be happy. Emphasize how much YOU DO NOT WANT TO LOOK ELSEWHERE. Your main desire is to find this in the loving relationship you have with HER.
