Totally agreed - the issue is that he doesn't THINK he has an issue with any of that. There isn't a way for me to convince him of that either. I've tried. The major issue in our marriage is that he was looking for someone (me) to complete him. When asked outright, he would say that he's not looking for this congregation to complete him, yet his actions/feelings say otherwise. Counseling is out of the question - as he feels he doesn't have an issue. So while I would love for him to find it within himself to become perfectly whole - it isn't happening at the moment. I can't control what he feels/thinks/acts, and I certainly don't want to continue adding to this vicious cycle he has created. Meaning, he looks to someone to fulfill him, fulfillment doesn't happen, depression ensues.
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
