Feelin for you on this turn of events. All I can offer is that my W delivered several such episodes in the past few months. All major blow-outs and while at first I was on the offensive, I learnt from here to validate and listen. Over the months the blow-ups have become fewer and less intensive. Its as if something had built up in her for months/years and then it all came tumbling out in anger and resentment. Once out, we have had periods of calm. The thing is at the moment your W might not be able to see shades of gray - all she can see is black and white. Or at least thats what happened to me - either I had to go or she had to go. There was no middle ground. Is there any way you can create a little wiggle room for her to see the middle ground options, even if just for now?
Chin up!
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
