I have NO feelings left for her one way or the other.
You read anger and self-pity and negatives.
That is not it at all. I feel nothing; I no longer care.
That is where I am at. You and others may not agree but it is a very good place to be.
Whether I agree or not is not important. It's what you believe that matters here.
Well, except, when you said: "But when her *feelings* for me or the family come back, it really hurts. A repeat hurt."
That doesn't seem like 'I no longer care'. Hurt, love, they are all part of the same set of feelings.
I'm not usually this dense I guess, but I re-read your posts and I stand by my previous post. You are reacting out of hurt, anger and some depression. Your W is starting to see you in a different, more positive light, and you're too afraid to risk. That's ok, it's where you are. Whatever decisions you make are yours to make and nobody is going to judge you for them. You're a good a decent man and have earned my respect and the respect of others.
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I only record her recent mood swings only to illustrate that when we finally do move on for real, we somehow become attractive to them again.
A very sanitized and disconnected place to be. The recorder of information. Emotionless, logical. How long can you suppress the feelings? I did it for several months. How long can you do it?
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That is great and I will build on that as we co-parent our kids. I will try to maintain a friendly relationship - but I do not pretend to be Jesus either. My best friend is my W - she is no longer my W.
True, but is the only other choice to be 'best friend'? As I said, at least be coordial to her.
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Frankly, I have nothing more than that to give her.
Yes, it was time for a new forum.
I'm sorry to hear that. I thought I saw some movement.
