Because, he wasn't always like this. (Not mad at you, mad at him.... \:\) ) This is his MO while he's in crisis mode...we had three good years. And, after (I thought) his crisis was resolved the first time, we had a great year and half. He totally got it. Turns out he never resolved his crisis. (Birth of a child is a common trigger.) I believe that, if he can finally finish this stupid crisis, then he and I can have an awesome M. Because I have seen a ton of personal growth from him the last year. Before that, I wasn't very willing to talk to him.

Also, I'm not perfect. I freely admit to having had an EA, years ago. Feel guilty as he!! about it, still. Was very tempted to have my own affair...but didn't... Writing here helps me see and learn about my own relationship issues. That is even more valuable to me, regardless of xh.

For me, it's worth the chance.

Yeah, I know how crazy it sounds. That's why I'm hanging out here, trying to get it sorted out. And will be starting IC soon. I feel less confused than I did a few months ago. So, that's good.

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You're willing to basically share him with this OW because you want sex


Yeah...not really...I cut him off two months ago. I ran into the problem I figured I would...my libido is driving me crazy!

Thanks for the perspective...don't misunderstand me. \:\) I'm looking for feedback of all kinds, or I wouldn't post on the web!

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If he was with you, he'd cheat with some other woman because you've done nothing that indicates that sharing his affections is a problem.


This is what I'm trying to work on... ;\)

It may seem small, but my speaking up about little things, like the picture, not wanting to sleep over there, telling him my feelings, are huge steps for me. It's a huge, ingrained habit of mine I'm trying to break.

Azhira

my confusion