Trying to Cope, but It's Too Hard

[Dom R]

He won't pick my daughter up if she is crying he said he can't deal with the guilt and it makes him want to come home for all the wrong reasons.

I think it would be worth talking to him, about how "working on your marriage, for your children", is not a "wrong reason" for doing so.

Something that I heard last year, that made me step back and think;
the common phase is "stay together, for the sake of the children".

If that is all it is, then it will be lousy. Two peole who are merely roommates, and fight all the time, isnt particularly good for the children.

What is good for them, is working on the marriage, for the sake of the children.


as far as him seeing an MC with you:
Sometimes, people have "issues" with seeing a counsellor.
if he refuses to see one.. you might see one for yourself, and see if that counsellor can suggest things for you to do jointly.
Sometimes, people are willing to do that, even though they arent willing to "go talk to a counsellor" themselves.