This story is completely bizarre. I don't get him and I don't get you either. Let me summarize and you tell me if I have it right.
He wants you to have a bf to see to your needs He has a gf He doesn't see a problem with the two of you spending nights together since "it's for his child". You're willing to basically share him with this OW because you want sex It's positive that you get to snuggle with him without him objecting (but he still thinks you should be having sex with some other guy)
Am I missing something? Probably not. I've seen this same story about 20 or more times on here and it's always when the guy leaves. He has another woman, but still spends all this time with his wife, juggling the two of them. Usually there is sex involved. The husband having sex with both women, but still living with the gf. What I never understand is why the wife doesn't just cut him off entirely. Why they are willing to be the fallback plan or a little diversion from their H (or XH's) gf. Basically, the H is cheating on two women at once, and the wife doesn't really have a problem with it. She still sees this guy as a catch. It's nice that he wants to see his child, but do you have to be part of the package deal. If it's solely about the child, then he should be able to have visitation without you. Where does you self-esteem have to be in order to see all of this as okay? I try to imagine how things would be if you reconciled and I can't imagine how you could trust him. He's actually cheating on OW with you. If he was with you, he'd cheat with some other woman because you've done nothing that indicates that sharing his affections is a problem.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
