Oh...forgot to say...this wouldn't have worked a few months back... I think all the standard, early on DB rules of "no R talk", don't push, don't ask, just validate, etc etc were necessary to help us both defuse, and learn to just hang around each other again. I'm just now getting to a point where I am able to try these things.
We do spend good QT time together...I'd say this is, maybe, 15-20% of our interactions. He is also very validating of my feelings...I can just call him when I'm feeling upset or anxious, so long as I don't call him names. I'm pretty sure he calls me first whenever something is bothering him.
I'm pretty sure he calls me first whenever something is bothering him.
