PS: saying "she doesnt respect you", means nothing to him. It has no traction to it. she "loooooves him". you cant make any statement about her feelings about him, that he will believe.
What would have more impact is if you tell him that YOU lose respect for him being an adulteror.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
