Why can't I do this....

[Dom R]

I am not sure how to get back in the house. I have tried I have asked, I have explained that I will set up in one of the boys rooms and it is met with hostility.

yes of COURSE it is "met with hostility".
she WILL state her objections to it! This is not a surprise!

if you wait until she "wants to recover your marriage", to start working on your marriage.. guess what? welcome to divorceville!!

She is going to continue to be hostile, until you (yourself) build a better marriage for the two of you. Whats the best way to do that? by you Being In The House. Over a long period of time. Consistently treating her better, and NOT FLIP-FLOPPING!!!

after a few MONTHS of this, then if you do a good job, she wont be hostile any more.

Months. I'm not kidding here.
"months" does not mean weeks. "months" does not mean days.
It means "multiple groupings of days, with each group approximately 30 days in length".



How do you get back in the house?

well, first you drive over there.. then you use your key to open the door... and then you step in.
Tricky, but I think it can be done


if SHE had moved out, and was in her OWN place... things would be different. but right now, she is in YOUR(both of you) house.
Go back to living in YOUR house, too!
She has zero right to ask you to live anywhere else.