My counsellor told me to not try to "compete" with OM, because it's a losing battle. He didnt say why. My guess is because you're "real",and they're a "fantasy",and fantasy usually wins out over reality. (for people who dont mind living their life in fantasy-land, anyways...)
Pretty much. On one side you have all the new mystery, passion etc etc from OM. Also, at that stage one does not see or chose to see any faults in the person they are enamored with. Partially hormonal. They are completely obsessed. Kind of like high on drugs. 100% dillusional. Then there's you, the person that she sees all the faults with and perhaps isn't with you because of some of those faults. All the anger, resentment, etc etc. It's totally unfair. You can't level the playing field until they get off that "high".
M: 31 W: 31 M: 7 T: 8 S:4 D:2 Bomb dropped: too many to count or remember, 12/17/07 last one S on 9/2/07 W sent off D papers 12/31/07. Me trying to live life and hope she returns one day.
Then there's you, the person that she sees all the faults with and perhaps isn't with you because of some of those faults. All the anger, resentment, etc etc. It's totally unfair. You can't level the playing field until they get off that "high". 
