One, I am not saying to focus on him ALL the time, what I asked is how much time each day IS he the focus of your life. My guess is most days, he is never the focus (we ALL have this problem more then we should). Your husband has known this for years. No matter WHAT he did, his needs NEVER became important enough to you. He has retreated into his "Cave". This is what men do unfortunately.
What happens is that having TOO much on your platter stresses you, and stress KILLS desire in LD people. HD people can take FAR more stress the LD people before their sex drives are impacted.
