Please help a newbie...

[Dom R]

I'm really glad to hear that he has agreed to MC with you.. that's wonderful news I hope that you find a "good one".

I have only one more comment for you:

hurtandlost - I agree with your point about him needing validation. I wonder if this is something I didn't do enough or if the kind of validation he's looking for is something that has to come from within...his own self-pride kinda thing. Maybe my saying that he doesn't have to get a job if he doesn't want to or something is making him worse. This could get really confusing.

DomR- Yes, he's a "bored housewife". But I am not a work-a-holic! I am home every evening by 5 or so, we bowl on a league two nights a week.

I mention the "bored housewife" thing, because then, it can hopefully give you ideas on how to improve things.
It doesnt matter that you arent a workaholic... what matters is his view of what he is doing.

As you replied to HaL... I think it's all about self-validation. I dont think he views what he is doing is fulfulling. or fulfilling "enough". I think that's the trap that many SAHM/housewifes fall into. you might look into things that they do to deal with those feelings, and see if any appeal to him.

And/Or... support him in efforts for him to find a job.
You cant "get him a job", though. he first has to get excited about getting one, himself, i think.