Why can't I do this....

[Dom R]

In addition, I was suppose to go over there last night to "play house" and she was in such a bad mood that it just made the night suck so I wanted to go back to where I am staying with my boys and another pseudo-fight ensued.

Being a good parent, is about taking care of your children at 2am, when all you want to do is go back to sleep.

Being a good husband, is about taking care of your marriage, when all you want to do is not deal with the stress any more.

Sometimes, "taking care of it", is arguing to try to resolve issues.
Sometimes, "taking care of it", is deciding NOT to argue, but just to be there, and help however you can.

It takes two people to argue. you ALWAYS have control over whether there is an argument.
you have the power to shut your mouth, and not say anything.

She may complain and whine and bitch that you are not talking to her. But it isnt an argument. it is then her LOOKING for one.
She cant have one, if you decide not to give her one.