new here. Feel like dying

[ms ladybug]

He went to a counselor yesterday for individual counseling. She only counsels cops, and doesn't do marriage counseling. So, we won't be going together. I asked him again about marriage counseling, and aparently his counselor yesterday told him that we both need to be in IC for awhile and MC later. She also told him not to hurry to move back home (good advice, thank GOD).

I feel good with him in counseling and out of the house. He's NOT moving back home without a few of MY conditions met first. I suspect it's going to be a long road ahead of us, but this may be the road to him making some changes. I don't know if he sees it yet, as he still blames it all on me and keeps asking if I'M willing to change, but I think with him in IC, any counselor worth their weight will see what he needs to work on.