Don't know what I'm doing anymore - Help.

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I wanted to talk to him last night about how I was feeling and be really honest with him (as gently as possible) about everything. But, of course, something always comes up. That's the way things go i guess.

My H is a wiz on computers and my sister just moved into a new apt. so we went over to see it and help her set up her new computer. Then it's get home late, cook dinner, get the girls into the bath and to bed. Then I sat with him on the couch and we watched some tv.

He kept doing all these little things that he knows drive me crazy. I kept asking him to stop and eventually got up and sat on the other couch. Then I was frustrated and mad and knew that wasn't the way to approach the conversation. So I put it off.

So we go to bed. No playing sick, no acting especially tired, nothing. If he wanted to talk about it, I would be honest. Nothing. A kiss goodnight, like every night, but no groping and touching. I was relieved. Then the baby was crying and I went to help her, then she woke up my other D and it took me about 30 min to get back to bed. I laid down, said good night and closed my eyes. About 10 min later, he says "don't worry, I'm not going to try to touch you or anything tonight. Just go to sleep" How do I even respond to that? I told him that I wasn't sure what he meant by that, but we could talk about it tonight. That I love him and good night.

This morning he tells me "i miss you" and I asked him what, cause he said it kinda quietly and he said "i said, I'll miss you today". to me, those are 2 very different statements. I just told him I love him, I'd call him later and that I hope he has a good day.

I don't know what to say to him anymore.