Never posted in this forum before, have stayed in Newbies until now... I now suspect my H is having an affair, maybe an EA, maybe a PA, don't know. Here is why I suspect: He's worked with a woman for a couple of years now who he seems to like (as a "friend") very much; always told me how much I would like her. I have met her twice, and while she's nice, I always had a feeling about her that puts me on edge. My H knows that I've felt odd about it; I "joked" sometimes he must be having an affair with her, to which he replied "you think I'm having an affair with everyone." He has sworn constantly that there is no one. Ok, I can be a little paranoid, but given the last 5 months of emotional and physical isolation I think I'm justified. Possible OW came to a yard party at our house a year ago or so, with her H, D4 and S7, and all I could think was "why did she wear stilletos (sp?) to try and chase the kids around the yard?" Anyway, H has been spending increasing time at work, working late, weekends, which given his job is not that unusual in itself, except he told me recently he's been spending time there because of the situation here. I then broke a DB rule and started snooping. Nothing unusual except one credit card statement- around his birthday a $100 charge at a steakhouse no where near his office. I played dumb and on the phone and said someone was asking me about this restaurant in such and such town, and wondered if he had ever been there on business (plausible). He said no. Fast forward to dinner that night and the first question out of his mouth to me is who asked me about the restaurant and why. I said a friend at work was talking about good restaurants, wanted to know about it. He then "remembered" his work friends had taken him out for his B-day, and it was there. I do know he went out. I said that's pretty far away from work (in Cambridge MA, lots of restaurants in Boston and Cambridge), so why drive so far? He said its not unusual. Bull. If they took him out why the $100 charge? Why drive 45 minutes? So I left it alone, was getting nowhere. Then a few weeks ago we had a table to get rid of, he said he'd ask at work. Surprise, the possible OW said she might be interested. No other info until 3 days ago and I realized it was gone. H said its been gone for a week, possible OW has it, he broke it down and took it to work to give her; said he told me. I have no recollection of him telling me, nor is there any time he went out to break down and put a large table in his SUV. Only time I or the kids aren't here is during work/school, so when did he do this? Next- I went away for a night 2 weeks ago, kids stayed here. When I get back H tells me he took them to an indoor playground, met some kids from pre-school, played with some kids named X and Y. I said ok, sounds like fun. Sudenly this morning my D6 starts talking about how much fun she, my S3, X and Y had together at the playground. I then realize X and Y are possible OW's kids' names. I say to D6 "who were they with?" "Their mom; daddy works with her." Ok,freaking out now. Asked if Daddy was surprised to see her/them, D6 said yes, he was surprised. An act maybe? She then said they all played together, got balloons, walked out to their cars and went home. I said "you all left togehter?" "Yes." So, again I play dumb to H on the phone- "D6 keeps talking about playing with X and Y at a playground, and that you knew their mommy, but I can't remember anythng about this... H says I told you that possible OW was there with her kids, unexpectedly. They played, then OW and kids left, and H stayed with our kids to play. DISCREPANCY- D6 is adament they all left at the same time, bought balloons, and went home. Why lie about that sort of thing? I also would have remembered if H had told me possible OW was there. Am I crazy? Am I reading too much into this? I can be paranoid. Someone please help!!!
Me 39 H 45 D6 S3 M11 T13 ILYBNILWY 7/15/07 H still here but that may change Possible OW
