I have just realized that there are a lot of similarities in some of our thoughts. My husband has no family beside me either and no job or any means to "survive" without me. I have wondered if our marriage is one of convenience for him (my mother puts those thoughts into my head)...
I kind of think you should keep doing what you are doing. In a way I think it makes him feel "unbalanced", like he's not sure what you are thinking so he HAS to talk to you to find out. It would seem that making him talk is making him open up and vent. These feelings need to be expressed to, and while you have an outlet here, he doesn't (does he?).
I think you should let him know your thoughts when you are comfortable. You said in a previous post here that there was a time when you didn't want to have an R talk, but he did. When you are ready to talk about the boundaries, then you can.
It seems sometimes that the talks can be sorta "one-sided" (i.e. one partner starts and kinda leads the discussion towards a specific issue).
I hope that makes sense and I hope I'm not totally out of left field...
