Get Me On A Smoother Ride....Need Advice #7

[SueS]

Stumped-

Thank you! One of the big things that keeps me at all positive through this is you guys. And of course D3. She is my heart.

You mentioned on your first post to me that I need to just let God take things for me. Oh, I know I do. I've had every intention to start going back to church. Colds/flu and then being out of town for Thanksgiving have prevented that, but hopefully this weekend.

You asked if my H was a stand up guy before all this. Well, kind of. He had his moments of not so stand up behavior. I see two sides of him. I see this side that seems like he wants to stay and be the husband/father and then the side that just wants to go and be single. Not that he doesn't love D3 or doesn't love being her dad, but lately D3 definately has not been his top priority. I think part of H's problem is that he's never really been alone. He went from mom & dad's house to his first marriage, back to mom & dad's house, then with me. Yes, he's been single, but never alone. Never lived on his own, as I have. When things get bad, he's not the best at figuring how to handle them on his own. Often times I've had to just pick up and take care of things because when I try to talk to him, H will say......Well, what do you want me to do about it? and then just ignores it.

I can tell that it's been very hard on D3. She hasn't wanted to go to bed by herself. She keeps begging to snuggle with us and telling me that she doesn't want to be left alone in her room. She pushes us to show each other affection. It breaks my heart to think of her without him.

SueS