Edie, Thanks so much for reminding those of us in Piecing that we still need to continue with the GAL activities, and not take on feeling responsible for our spouses happiness.
It's so easy when some stability and connection has been restored to go back to old patterns. My old pattern is feeling like I'm not a good husband when my W is angry with me, and is unhappy. I somehow think that if I try harder than things will be better.
What my new patterns need to consist of are continuing with my GAL activities (dancing, writing), giving her space to work out her problems, assisting her when I'm able to, maintaining connection when she wants it, letting her know when she's being disrespectful, and not allowing the turbulence to create a black cloud over my head.
Thanks for sharing, and keep us posted.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
