The counselor did seem to calm my nerves a bit (which I was doubtful would happen) and when I got home my husband and I had a long talk about things.
I told him I thought he was having some kind of on-line affair. He denied it.
I explained all my reasons for feeling this way and said that we have a problem in our marriage we have to fix. He has agreed to go to the counselor with me.
He says he will stop chatting online with the three women he admitted to talking to. He did give me their names and some background information.
At first I told him he had to stop talking to them...then I got concerned about making such an ultimatum. So I told him that although that is what I want, we would discuss it next week with the counselor.
I asked him a lot of questions and he gave me answers. Of course, now I have doubts I can trust him, and the answers seemed all too convenient...but he didn't seem to get angry or defensive or not say anything. In some ways it appeared to me that he knew he was caught, but couldn't admit it.
Regardless, for now, I'm more satisfied that we can move forward. That we can work on the problems and get our marriage back on track.
