Trying to Cope, but It's Too Hard

[stacy22]

Well, I am new to the Divorce buster Group. My H is the one who read the book, "Sex Starved Marriage", but did not share his feelings with me about leaving or looking for new bate. I found out last week that he had been talking to another female and they have kissed a few times. Saturday he moved out and is staying with a co-worker we both work with.

We have been married for 15yrs and he promised that he would let me know if he thought about leaving or thought about cheating on me again. I forgave and went on with life thinking that he would tell me if he was having serious thoughts of leaving our marriage.

Well he didn't until recently and it was to late for me to make any changes for myself, because I was not aware that he was unhappy, didn't feel loved by me or feel passion from me. I read the book he read yesterday and today and if I only new than what I know now our marriage could be saved. My H says he has tried everything and he is done trying, and has fallen out of love with me, OUCH. I can't read between the lines and he doesn't communicate his thoughts very well, so I missed the boat. He is fustrated, angry, and hurting and doesn't want to deal with it anymore.

I have been trying not to give up hope for our marriage, but I am very hurt right now and my heart is broken into a thousand pieces. I love the man with all my heart, if I didn't I would have never of tried to reconcile the former times he has cheated on me.

We obviously have not been on the same page, and now I am feeling like he is not going to let me try to put what I have learned into action. He never shared anything in this book with me and i do not recall he trying any of the recommendations. What I want to do is give the book back to him to read again, do you think I should.

He comes by everyday to see our girl who is 11, and she is hurting also. He says he hates to see us cry, but we are really trying our best to get through it all, we just miss him and I don't know what to tell my girl.

He says he needs time because he has issues he needs to deal with, and I am trying to be understanding. I just don't understand how he can not be understanding to our needs too.

Anyhow I am up at 4am so you all probably know what I am feeling like, I'm sick, can't eat, sleep and I just need a twinkle of something to keep me going to help save my marriage.