You know you don't have control over anybody but yourself, don't you? The way your fw or anyone else for that mater will interact with you will change according to their state of mind at that particular moment. If they're a bit frazzled of seriously P.ed off about something they will be communicating totally differently than if they were relatively happy.
My w is different every time I see her. If by some chance I'm at the family home and lover boy is there she is totally cold and distant towards me. I really can't understand why she would be feeling uncomfortable. Other times she is a bit stand offish or even starts chatting about nothing. I can never tell what she will be like but I can tell what I'll be like. Cool, calm & collected.
As far as standing, moving on or living in limbo goes my slant currently is to just get on with my life. (My w certainly seems to have adopted this credo.) If sometime in the future she comes around we will just have to see what happens.
I try to make all interaction with the w positive ones but must admit that lately I've been guilty of being a bit distant towards her. I really don't feel anger towards the w, more a lasting feeling of bitter disappointment, any pedestal that she was once on is now long gone.
Jeff try to look at the positives in your life, you've just had thanksgiving over there haven't you. Try to make every day a thanksgiving day rather than a woe is me day.
