Actually, you got a LOT of the same. For much of my career, I was not able to take time off at will, (literally, it's a gov't job,) and she had to more often. Transfers & etc. finally changed that, and I can now (almost always,)take any time needed. Doesn't matter, the resentment is there now.
I often heard "your job is more important than mine," and etc. Like you I was proud of her for her accomplishments and devotion, and like you I told her that. Again, doesn't matter, the resentment is there now.
I'm far from being really on top of this stuff, but you hit the nail on the head with these two,
"I never once said her job was meaningless," BUT "it was never enough."
Darn Straight. I have to say though that is part of their self esteem problem, not our jobs.
Oh, BTW, DAMN STRAIGHT I know what you're saying about it happening on our watch!!! S6 was 2 and STBXW gave him a tortilla chip over my objections, he choked, I cleared the airway. (I've been shot at and it doesn't come remotely close to being that scared!) Anyway, STBXW resents that I restrict their access to choking hazards now. (Based on age.) I'm the ogre, I don't take her opinion into account. Yeah well, not on my watch lady, with or without you.
OK, guess I'm controlling about that. Too bad. I don't let them play with my service weapon either.
Some things are gonna happen on our watch, if my childhood is any indication, (and your's too I bet.) But a lot more opportunity for trouble exists in the fairyland that our Ws live in where their attention is on chasing "Jody," and not the kids.
Our world is a lot safer than theirs.
You're doing great man.
-------------- The Forlorn Hope:...A picked body of men detached to the front to begin the attack....Fortified, meaning strengthened to stand...and thus, positioned for victory
