Thanks for asking Brit. I guess I just don't see H as ever being willing to work on the R. He responded a little to some flirting the other day, but the was only physical. It seems as if I'm seeing no emotional changes in him. When I talked to my FIL he seemed to indicate that H didn't see any hope. That is what H has been telling me since June. I really can't see anything changing as long as he continues to see the C he is now. His C still hasn't asked to talk to me after all that time. Mine wanted to talk to my H the first time I went in.