Sandi, I am sorry you have gone so long without having your needs met. I think the OM woke you up to the pain you have been feeling inside, as you had a chance to delight in some very repressed feelings. Your H remains stuck out of fear. He doesn't seem to know how to respond to you, so he shuts down. Underneath he is brewing with all sorts of thoughts, emotions and feelings. Fear is his enemy, but don't allow it to be yours. What are you willing to do to jostle the situation? Are you willing to insist on MC? Are you willing to separate? If not, you are going to have to work on the journey to acceptance. You might consider taking some time away to really work on you. In the book, "Eat, Pray, Love" the author, newly divorced and in pain, takes a year of her life as a "time-out and searches for pleasure, spirituality and balance. It may be that you have suffered enough and it's time for a change.
