MoJo how you would f*ck if you f*cked like you wanted to" but you pretty much made that clear as well as your current modus operandi.
I would do some/all of the preliminaries during the day. Have both of us shower, (I do but BB won’t right before we go to bed. She showers about 10 AM and said more than one shower’s a day dry out her skin).
Not a lot of things would be different but there would be much less of me worrying about what she could tolerate physically and emotionally. I want her to “lean-into it” when we do have sex.
What keeps me from doing what I want is Me not putting my weight on her. Me having to be aware of her open space so she doesn’t feel claustrophobic. Me thrusting slow or not thrusting too many times. Me doing 90% of the actions and her telling me what is too much as in many things are too much, really crimps my style.
I want more vigorous sex or sex with some energy to it. I want to do a few more things, not a lot of things for now. I want a more vigorous ride and be ridden once in a while. I want a little white-water, some slow stream floating, and some lying together on the beech.
What we have now is slow stream riding and spending a lot of time worrying about snags and branches in the water and worrying about what might go wrong.
I want to not have to drive several days just to dip my toe in the water and have BB say it isn’t right for any kind of watercraft play. I want to float my canoe in the local pond if it has water in it. If it is dries up, then lets go to the closest body of water.
If there is Some contamination, low water line, can’t go in because we just ate lunch, that isn’t going to bother me. I don't cramp easily.
I don’t do weird, so what is wrong with a quick dip, on a regular basis?
Maybe me de-pantsing her quickly the other day did some good. BB seems to pay more attention to me than normal in the last couple of days.
So far, my observations would be that you are naturally not very monkey sexually. Well, I suppose all of those messages I heard over a lifetime about what NOT TO DO, what women supposedly didn't like, almost killed my monkey but my lion (biological sex drive) kept pushing me to do sex at least at some basic level.
I never felt free to do what I wanted and think, “the heck with what she liked.” I have always been concerned to not go past what I could tell BB was comfortable doing.
There seems to be a line where I get the idea that it is a no-no to go past a certain point, and reading here, going past that line is when some women say they feel like they are in the hands of someone she can really trust.
You and GP doing doggie comes to mind. I would never have complained like PAL did, but I would have wondered if BB wasn’t liking it. In your case GP just lifted you up and had at it.
