I noticed that part of your sitch reminds me a little of mine a year or so ago. I can only tell you that you're doing the right thing by not focusing on what your H is doing - especially by NOT checking his Cell bill.
What continues to help me with my marriage now is to not even care about his cell phone bill or what he sends out in email. He's not having any A now, but at times my fear causes me to wonder and it's at that point that I pray and thank God for causing my H to want to be the man I need and that I know he truly wants to be. Frankly - what keeps me here most is my faith and belief in God and what God is doing in my H's life. It's amazing how much my trust in God has grown!
Was your H a pretty straight-up guy before? If so, then deep down inside he probably still wants to be that person but doesn't know how. That's when we HAVE TO GIVE THEM TO GOD. Because, as you know, the only one that can be around someone 24/7 is God.
The best thing to keep doing for yourself is find and DO things that make you happy. PERIOD. Which it sounds like you're doing. KEEP IT GOING!
I'm praying for you, as I don't know if I would stay with my H if he had another A. THAT WOULD DEFINITELY TAKE A MIRACLE FROM GOD AND PROBABLY ME HEARING GOD'S VOICE VERBALLY.....LOL
God Bless & keep us posted! Great going on doing good at your job too! THAT DEFINITELY BUILDS YOUR PERSONAL ESTEEM!
Last edited by stumped1245; 11/28/0712:48 AM.
"GET BUSY LIVING OR GET BUSY DYING...."
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