No. You can't ask her that. It'll only make her mad. I know you want to get her to think about it. But, it won't work that way.
One helpful piece of advice that I got early on was do not believe ANYTHING WAS's are saying. Personally, my h has told me that he's filing for divorce several times. I've also heard him tell me that he doesn't care how i feel, it's over, he doesn't want to lead me on, and more, some very vile and mean comments.
These things are said because they are angry. You need to follow Chuck's advice and go dark. Your wife needs time to think, and you CANNOT be around for that.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
