Out of the mouths of babes.....

[missmyfriend]

w8ing, I apoligize in advance for making personal statements but your first post struck a chord in me.

When my W and I were first going through MC when she first dropped the bomb, our therapist listened to everything over several sessions and made the comment that we need to carefully consider what we do for the children's sake. After my W left, we went to a therapy session two days after she left. The therapist was more concerned with our children then us, which to me, was appropriate. He asked us if we understood why D is so hard on children, especially girls. He went on saying that children expect a "Happily Ever After" and with D, that is gone, never to return. They no longer believe it. Even when they "fall in love", the children, now adults, feel that nothing is meant to last. Nothing can change that for them because the parents they love, separated.

He asked my W if she could work through this, at home, for the children. She said no.

I hate D. No matter what anyone says on the board or elsewhere will I ever believe that D is okay. I know there is an exception of an alcoholic/drug abusing or physical abuse being present but other than that, D is something that is terrible and has no place. For a person to say that they need to find their happiness at the expense of others is extremely deficient in their emotional maturity.

I know many posters here that I care about have had to resign themselves to D and have had to come to the point where they say they are better off now. I understand they are better off than what they experienced since the bomb but are they better off? Maybe. Children are being hurt by D over and over again all over this world and the D rates keep going up.

D is horrible.