Hey mk - long time, no talk! Sorry, haven't been spending as much time on the boards lately.
I can sure relate to the things you said on the love/hate thing. I sometimes try to think of it that my H died - something sudden, car wreck or something. I met a guy who looks a lot like him, but it's not the same man. I dunno.. it helps me with the detachment a bit, and helps me kind of understand my feelings a bit better. If he died I'd love him forever like I promised.. but he'd be gone, too. Make sense kinda?? I know that's a bit morbid but it helps me think it through.
I also wanted to drop by and mention that we may now have a couple of options for you on the DB meetup in Sonoma. We've been trading emails around - since a number of us are arriving Friday, we're thinking about going out for drinks or something Friday night. So if Saturday won't work for you or if you'd like to hang out with us twice let me know. You can drop me an email if you're comfortable with it. I forget if I gave this to you before but it's:
nikki b @ surewest .net
(funky formatting to hide from Google... but just string it all together).
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread