I'll let someone else answer your detachment question, as I haven't really mastered that yet.
However, I have wanted to tell you since you first logged on, that I like the title of your thread. How appropriate for so many of us. I went through an A with my H 6 years ago and told myself that I would never, ever let anyone make me feel that way again. But, here I am, feeling the same way and damn it, I thought I was stronger. I'm just lucky that this time I jumped right back on the board for support and got to a Dr. for AD's right away. This time around I have a daughter to be strong for, but it still hurts like hell.
I'm glad you came here. I'm amazed at how the people here are so supportive.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day