Well, the lack of response makes it clear that the majority have no input.
Doesn't mean that. Maybe it's a busy day for everyone.
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It would be nice to get to validate her but I don't feel she will open that door.
She will open that door many many times during the course of this discussion. A) She may indicate why she wants this divorce. You can validate that by saying, "I understand this is what you want". B) She will indicate how much time she should have with your daughter and why. Another opportunity to validate. "I know you love her very much and want her as often as possible. I understand that. Believe me, I wish we could both have her all the time. But look at it from my perspective; how would you like to see D5 only every other weekend?" There, validation about how she feels while establishing how you feel. Every statement out of her mouth offers an opportunity to HEAR HER and VALIDATE her feelings. You don't have to agree...you just have to understand that she owns those feelings and they aren't your to change. She can feel that way without being talked out of it.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
