new here. Feel like dying

[Dom R]

Hmmm....

"The hardest condition (moving) is NOT going to happen until/unless things are well resolved between us. I think we'd both agree on that."

Unless you _know_ that's clear.. .i'd say that needs to be cleared up asap ?!

I think the whole lawn mowing thing was just to push my buttons. He knows damn well that he had nothing to do, and very well could have come mow the lawn. I'm kinda glad I did it. I was able to work-off some aggression pushing that thing (once I figured out how to get it started).

I dont think you should make assumptions about motivations.
he really could have been nagging you, simply because according to the current scheme of things, "it's your job", and you hadnt done it.

If you're ok with it being your job... how about doing a better, more regular job of it?
If you're NOT ok with it being your job... then I suggest get an agreement as such out of him.

I've read some amount of what you might call passive-agressive anger on your part. You get really angry and frustrated about problems... but you dont seem to make moves to fix them. You just seem to want to stay angry about them.

What makes a good marriage, is when people try to resolve problems.
What makes a marriage lousy, is when a whole lotta crud builds up, and pepole would rather get angry and leave, than work together.


I know you're in a tough spot.. your husband isnt the most cooperative of people. downright ornery, in fact.
How about choosing to work on things that you CAN fix, though? I think there are things you complained about over the last few weeks, that it is in your power to fix, or at least improve, rather than just stewing over them.