You said it all, my friend! And boy, oh boy, did I need that!
I heard from the kids he went on a dating website and I guess I was curious and glad at the same. I could not believe he would do that and knew that it would be the end of the Rat. So, I was happy for my kids knowing that would be the nail in the coffin if the Rat saw the profile.
So, when I read it I thought, oh, that was on the button. And that was that. Didn't think twice. I went on my daily life until I had two people tell me that thought it was a dig at me.
I have been so emotional due to the holidays that I broke but I am track now, thanks to you, spitty and A.H. Most days, I am fine..on the days that are long, I am chaueffering the kind around, doing homework, grading papers and I look in the mirror and think, omg, when did I start lookin like that (ugh) my guard goes down.
I was mostly curious as to how much income he reported on his profile..it has prompted me to take care of some unfinished business with my D with finances. I thought he was just "getting by" so I dropped it..Now he is Mr. Money Bags so he can cough up the dough he owes me and the kids.
I guess there was some kind of hurt that was stirred up again, too. It was more than the match thing. It was the fact he dumped me for the Rat and then he dumped the Rat the exact same way. The kids are all seeing this..Textbook..all over again..I thought he had changed..I know the Rat was just that..a rat that filled the emotional void..but he did majorally dump her.
Too much thought has gone into all this but you did make a heck of a lot of sense. He is a child..he needs help..all the stuff you listed that you had remembered is right..he needs help and will always need help..
I was a great wife and thanks for reminding me. I guess when you are told over and over how much you failed you need to be reminded every now and then.
