Okay....I'm going to get very defensive right now.
BND - I have worked my *ss off to NOT involve my children. I have made decisions that are not good for me personally, but are in my children's best interest.
I am giving back to my H what is rightfully his. Ornaments are a big thing in his family - it is his family tradition that we have carried on in ours. What message do I send to my kids if I keep ones that they know mean something to him?
Should I have done this in front of the children? I don't know. I intentially hid ornaments that were wedding related in hopes that they wouldn't notice. They did and were upset that I was keeping them from them.
I know that this is my divorce - I am painfully aware of that. But please know that I have not involved my children. I have gone to great lengths to keep them out of this and will continue to do so. My goal is to make sure that they are not stereotypical children of divorce. I will make mistakes in my decision making - I know this. But there hasn't been a negative word that has come out of my mouth about my H. I don't confide in friends because I am concerned that it will get back to my girls.
I recognize that you said that I may not be doing this and you are just cautioning me about doing it. It is important for me to make sure that it is understood that my children are priority and I will do whatever it takes to make sure that they remain happy and healthy.
They mean the world to me and I don't want them hurt from all of this.
