Since last post about a month ago W has rented a small house in town. Up until 3 days ago she has still not asked for any financial contribution from me even though it was offered. We have met fairly regularly and the meetings have always been cordial.On Wednesday of this week when I arrived home she was in the house getting a few of her ornaments she also asked for the cheque. She said she had paid her rent in advance from last months pay but was now running short. I have agreed to give her this on Sunday with a witness to a written statement of what we are agreeing on.She commented while she was here on a new cardigan I was wearing I said it was comfortable but that the sleeves were too long. She offered to shorten them And gave it back to me last night. I thanked her and said what agood job she had made.I also gave her a small silk plant as a "housewarming gift" She was delighted with this and actually gave me a kiss. This felt like a kiss of gratitude rather than affection. Am i seeing baby steps or is it guilt. She talks incessantly about her job and it seems that this is the most important thing in the world to her.However I have noticed that when she does this her guard drops and she becomes very agitated and nervous. It seems as though she regards her past life as over and she is trying to start again
Met W again 2 days ago this time with our G/daughter,who she has not seen for about a month.G/D commented to me and her Mum how she has seen great changes in W. She said she looks ill and has let herself go.She said her clothes were ill-matched and didn`t fit and that her hair looks a mess. She also commented that W`s memory is very poor. W. asked her the same question 3 times in half an hour. It really pains me to see her like this and I would really love to help her but she seems as distant as ever but still freindly. We sit next to each other on the sofa we even touch hands (several times when stroking the dog), and she still adresses me as "love". She is still obsessed with work and seems to be working at every opportunity.From what she says her quality of life in her new home is not even remotely like the life she had here. She even has a T.V.that doesn`t work and asked if she could take some C.D.`s with her so she could have something to listen to. We have a 50th birthday party of a good freind of ours coming up and this will be the first time that daughter has seen her since seperation.D. still has some anger issues both for her own hurt and from seeing her Dad hurt but she has promised to control her temper and has said she will not "blank" her. Fingers crossed
