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Re: A no snooping weekend for me! doa180 #1276684 11/27/07 07:22 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646 J Jack_Three_Beans Moderator
Jack_Three_Beans Moderator J Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646	Quote: Tonite I will change the time I call the kids saying I have plans. I am only going to the mall to get out for a bit... She has a C session tomorrow and I wonder how it will affect her mood. The last time I did that she got grumpy with me. Why are you doing this? Changing the time? You did it last time and she got grumpy right? If you are trying to provoke a reaction, good but you have found that it was perhaps not a good reaction, those aren't the reactions you want to foster. If you are doing this to poke at her, you need to reevalute what it is you want here. Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: A no snooping weekend for me! Jack_Three_Beans #1276782 11/27/07 08:30 PM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 343 D doa180 OP Member
OP doa180 Member D Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 343	I'm doing it because I have been so predictable without a life of my own. Since I am out of state it is the only way I can show that I am GAL. I think it was a good grumpy...

Re: A no snooping weekend for me! doa180 #1276802 11/27/07 08:38 PM
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Jack_Three_Beans Moderator J Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646	Oh Doa, please GAL for the right reasons, not to try and intrigue her. Good grumpy? The only good grumpy I know of is Oscar the Grouch. That or the type where you get to make up afterwards. Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: A no snooping weekend for me! Jack_Three_Beans #1276846 11/27/07 09:10 PM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 343 D doa180 OP Member
OP doa180 Member D Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 343	I have been doing it for me, but with our distance there is no way she knows that. Doing this has been an important 180 for me. Oscar the Grouch -- I see you've met her :-)

Re: A no snooping weekend for me! doa180 #1276883 11/27/07 09:30 PM
Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646 J Jack_Three_Beans Moderator
Jack_Three_Beans Moderator J Joined: Jan 2006 Posts: 11,646	My wife had the costume for awhile. Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK TRUST THE PROCESS - Cadet

Re: A no snooping weekend for me! Jack_Three_Beans #1276896 11/27/07 09:38 PM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 343 D doa180 OP Member
OP doa180 Member D Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 343	The sad thing is that I kinda miss her grumpy mooods during the good times. I just told her I was going to call 30 min earlier tonite. I left out the vague reference to "I've got plans" entirely.

Re: A no snooping weekend for me! Jack_Three_Beans #1277756 11/28/07 04:34 PM
Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 717 M MariS Member
MariS Member M Joined: Sep 2006 Posts: 717	doa180 How did your evening go? Find anything good at the mall? MariS "Going for the Gold & not the Booby prize" Become the change you want to see..... Me - 37 WAH - 35 child - 2yrs Separated - August '06 Married - 10yrs, Together 18 Not feeling WAH's internal struggle - Feb '08

Re: A no snooping weekend for me! MariS #1277805 11/28/07 05:05 PM
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OP doa180 Member D Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 343	It was good thanks! No - just kinda walked around and then went homwe to read for awhile.

Re: A no snooping weekend for me! doa180 #1277845 11/28/07 05:30 PM
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Jeanette1120 Member J Joined: Nov 2005 Posts: 6,634	Originally Posted By: doa180 The sad thing is that I kinda miss her grumpy mooods during the good times. That was very sweet doa....I know what you mean. Funny how we never thinked this way before they left huh? I bet we don't take things for granted anymore!! Hugs Jeanette Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us. Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice! :-)

Re: A no snooping weekend for me! Jeanette1120 #1277874 11/28/07 05:48 PM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 343 D doa180 OP Member
OP doa180 Member D Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 343	Yeah. I certainly see my role in where we are - not that it justifies her actions - but I just can't help but believe that its too late.

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