I think you done good w/ the letter I would not delete it. As hard as it is for you, she needs to get something along those lines & digest it. No actual conversation, she needs to see it in writing. I think you did the right thing.
Me: 38 H: 35 S4, S5, S10 Bomb 01/07 Wanted D - nothing would change his mind Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb Piecing 04/07 Deployed for a year 05/07 Still Piecing 2010 M 11 yrs 05/10
I would not delete it. As hard as it is for you, she needs to get something along those lines & digest it. No actual conversation, she needs to see it in writing. I think you did the right thing.