an xh, his FF, Thanksgiving, MIL, and one psuedo-R

[Dom R]

Also weird. We wound up cuddling some last night when he dropped by to see the baby. (???) Said he would do whatever it took to be able to continue to sleep next to him at night. Except, of course, for JD to go bye-bye.

why should he? you're still letting him be close to you.
there are exactly two possibilities why he might break it off with JD, seems like:

1. you tell her husband about it, and he gets HER to drop your exh.

2. you stick to some boundaries, and cut him off, and he decides that you and your child,are more important than his dumb fantasy affair.

what you are doing now, sure isnt working, nor does it look likely to work.

He told me he was afraid I would be mad at him if we did, since, apparently, all our problems come down us having sex.

"no, our problems all come down to you having sex with SOMEONE ELSE!!!"


Yell at him! He deserves it! He needs a wake-up call, instead of cuddling from you

The bad thing...I feel like I could climb a tree!

and he KNOWS it.. and figures that he can still have both of you, because he thinks that you are weaker than he is.
Is he right, or wrong?

Damn.. i should probably follow my own advice
except that my wife doesnt respond well, to me showing my own emotions, and how badly she has/is hurting me.
Whereas, your (ex)H responds in a positive manner.

So, i think that type of approach "doesnt work" for my situation, but "has been shown to work" for yours.