I see your point and I wish I could have made things as black and white as you say.
It took me 4 years to realize it is unacceptable.
When you love a person and the R is wonderful except for some dirt you keep pushing under the rug it takes a while to accept the unacceptable. It's like putting things in a weight scale.
So, I see you are very logical, and using scientific logic the subject would be bs.
But from the point of view of someone who is the starved, I wouldn't dump my husband just because he has LSD and the impact in our marriage was none. I kind of don't buy the LSD story. I buy I had a bad S experience story, references, paradigms and now I have issues with S. Don't want to generalize but that's what I see in the forums here and also that's what happened to my H.
